Running Toward Your Resolutions

Tomorrow being New Year’s Eve, many of my readers will be coming up with resolutions for 2014.  Yet statistics say that most resolution-makers are going to fail in their attempt.  If you believe that you are too fat or too skinny, chances are you will be looking in the mirror and thinking the same thing four weeks from now.  If the house continues to approach candidacy for an episode of “Hoarders”, don’t be surprised if come Spring cleaning, the place still looks like a dump.

The reason for resolution failure, those same statisticians tell us, is often a lack of specificity.  If John tells himself, “I want to get in shape,” but cannot answer the question, “To what purpose?”, then he is more likely to fail.  This is common sense, since if we have learned anything from the examples of our current President and the “mainstream” media, one does not achieve any demonstrable goals based purely on feelings.

Yet sometimes, even when you think you have a solid goal that you are working toward, a well-planned resolution itself will not be enough to make you continue down the path to a changed life.

I was never an athlete when I was in grade school or in high school.  However in college, I became friendly with many of the athletes playing for Georgetown, which was a mix of both NCAA Division I – basketball, track, lacrosse, etc. – athletics, and also some not-so elite athletics.  I grew particularly interested in track, and was told that if I wanted to try to walk on to the track team – no easy task – as a middle-distance runner, which given my height and rather long legs seemed the most sensible option, I would have to be able to run the 1500-meter at under 4 minutes, not for competition but at practice every day.

Being young and stupid, I decided to go for it.  I began running like crazy on all different types of surfaces, using a sports watch, eating like mad, as well as keeping a journal of my miles logged and how I felt after each run.  Gradually I added more and more miles every week, based on the advice that the middle-distance fellows gave me.  I learned what shoes – never sneakers, mind you – to buy, who were the good manufacturers of different types of athletic gear for the sport, and began reading magazines like “Runner’s World”.

Running became one of the most important aspects of my life, even though I was nowhere near competing with anyone in a race.  I attended track meets so I could learn more about the sport and support my friends.  I trained in all kinds of weather, wearing everything from only split shorts with a thin t-shirt all the way up to layers of tights with three layers of sweatshirts, gloves, and a hat.  Gradually my friendships dwindled down to a small circle of track people and non-track people, with the latter group growing thinner and thinner.  I lost interest in my coursework, but was so caught up in this new sport and the friendships I had formed around it, that I wasn’t paying attention to developing my mind – which of course was the whole point of being in college in the first place.

Then one night when no one else was running, but the field lights were still on up on the track, I headed up the hill from my dormitory with a young lady I was interested in at the time.  I asked her to time me on a stopwatch as I attempted to run the 1500 in under 4 minutes.  I would be timing myself on my stopwatch as well, so that there could be independent verification of the result.  I do remember loosening up a little bit, but mostly I remember just staring at the somewhat spongy surface of the track, before suddenly everything became a blur, as I exploded into a flat-out run.

Lo and behold, I did it: both timepieces confirmed that I had run the 1500 in 3:56.  The elation I felt at the time was very difficult to describe, although to be honest more than feeling happy I was completely out of breath and wanted to throw up.  Fortunately, I had the presence of mind not to do so in front of a lady.

Later that evening as I lay in bed, I realized that this was not supposed to be a one-time achievement.  Rather, this was something that I would be expected to do every single day in practice, and to surpass it during competition at track meets.  And that was assuming I would even get a look-see from the track coach.

It was then that I realized, for all I had done to myself to get to that point, that I was not interested in pursuing this sport any further.  It was no longer fun, or a way to hang out with my new buddies, it was very quickly going to become a chore, and one that if I was honest with myself, I did not actually enjoy.  Within days, the running shoes and tights were in the garbage, and I was back to enjoying cocktails and espresso, writing journal entries about literature and architecture, instead of charting how many miles I had run.  I have never regretted that decision to walk away when I did.

The moral here, if there must be one, is that although 2014 may be a great year for you to try something new, or change something about yourself, without a specific, achievable goal in mind you are probably not going to succeed.  Your first task is to identify something that you can see through from start to finish in a reasonable period of time.  You need to have some idea of how many days, weeks, or months it will take for you to achieve that goal, calendar for yourself accordingly, and stick with it.

Yet you may well have a second task, just as important as the first: identifying what happens when you achieve the achievable goal.  If you lose 20 pounds but still dress like a schlub, or clean out the guest room but never have anyone come stay for the weekend, what was the point?  Don’t get me wrong, I’m proud of the fact that at least once in my life, I ran at a reasonably elite level of speed.  Yet when I reached that goal and realized that pursuing it further would require more of me than I was willing to give, I stopped and focused my attentions elsewhere.

So be prepared Gentle Reader, this New Year’s Eve, that when you make your resolution, you not only have an achievable goal in mind, but that you are also considering what, if anything, will happen when and if you achieve that goal.

"Runner" by Unknown Artist (19th C. copy of Ancient Greek Original)  Achilleion Palace, Corfu

“Runner” by Unknown Artist (19th C. copy of Ancient Greek Original)
Achilleion Palace, Corfu

10 thoughts on “Running Toward Your Resolutions

  1. I’m guessing from your story that your new-found athletic prowess did little or nothing to improve your relationship with the young lady. “The Loneliness of the Middle Distance Runner,” yes?


  2. Pingback: » New Years resolutions for 2014

  3. An enjoyable article. P.S.: The originals twins runners are at National Archaeological Museum of Naples: Runners from Villa dei Papiri .


  4. I’ve also been told that if you have a big or ultimate goal, one way to make it easier to achieve is to break it down into a series of smaller and more manageable steps that aren’t so intimidating. You don’t have to do everything all at once. I wrote a huge post on my blog a couple of days ago about goals I’d like to achieve in 2014 and spent the whole next day feeling depressed. I’ll have to break down each of those goals into more doable steps.


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